When thinking about wanting to find someone to be in a relationship with, you have to ask yourself some important questions and be truthful with your answers.
Why do you want a relationship? and saying that you have a lot to give is lying to yourself, even if it is true - that isn't the real reason.
You know there is some kind of selfish desire involved.
Maybe you search high and low for someone who 'ticks all the boxes' on your want list.
They have to look like this, or act like that, or be into this. They have to want sex all the time, they must be rich. Or whatever, some selfish desires will be there.
Admit them, write them down and study them.
It might be as simple as wanting to find someone to share holidays and experiences with, but you can get that from a friend.. Think carefully about what it is that you think you really 'need'. Is it really just a 'want'?
You could waste your whole life trying to find that one special person, and put your life on hold until you do. Or you could be realistic and realise no Prince Charming or Beautiful Princess is going to come along and make your life fantastic and perfect and wonderful..... You are responsible for your own happiness, no one else is.
So why waste time worrying about if you will or won't meet someone? Just get on with your life, and find happiness alone. Because one thing is for sure... While you can't be happy on your own, you will never be happy with another. They will never be perfect enough, or ever live up to your expectations. You would probably end up being over-bearing, or even possessive, because you rely on them for your happiness, and it just isn't healthy.
When we learn to let go of the things we think we 'need', and instead change them to - 'It would be nice, however I am going to get on with my life and dreams, with or without that.'.... It will change your life for the better.
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